|Kristina, Juan, and Hush Ke Niya minutes after birth|
I met Kristina when she appeared on my Compton doorstep, pregnant, traumatized from her last birth, and anxious for support from a doula. She was seeing a good friend of mine, who didn't expect any of this, so of course, I agreed to help them. She was an amazing primal birther, who only needed reassurance and a calming, grounded presence. Kristina and I became friends, and I had the honor of supporting her next, unassisted home birth.
She trusts me, knows my diet, temperament, and energy because we've been in high-intensity settings together. So, when she nonchalantly said,
"Juan and I are going for a walk, watch the baby, yeah? You can nurse her if she wakes up", I naturally agreed.
As most babies do when their mothers leave the room, Manahuiya woke up. Aubrey, a close friend soothed and held her until she cried without relief.
"Should I nurse her?", I asked Aubrey hesitantly.
"Well, yeah, Kristina said yeah...". Aubrey said as she handed over Manahuiya.
|Wet-nursing two month old Manahuiya.|
"Aha! Now I understand what Kristina was saying about her shallow latch..." I gently said.
During one of my postpartum visits, after a traditional baño, Kristina and I went over suggestions for shallow latch. Now, I experienced it, and felt more adequate in providing solutions. I changed breasts, over to my emptier one, and her latch was great! I admired her tiny little eyes and beautiful new skin. I felt a veil being lifted from my face, and saw her in a new light. She stared up at me with loving eyes, and Aubrey and I giggled. Nursing a newborn without just giving birth made me feel so powerful. She was light and tiny as I swayed her left to right.
By the time they got back, she was dozing off at the breast, and mom was thrilled. I think Juan felt a little awkward, but when I asked him, he said:
"Ugh...it's disgusting! Nah, just kidding, it's cool, dude".
We all laughed and agreed that we can take each other's babies when we need a break. Whether or not we ever do, it's comforting to know that my baby has a breast when he needs one.
|Kristina, nursing her newborn, the other little ones, very interested.|