Keeping two nurslings happy at once, I imagine, is like having to appease two lovers. It's a little awkward at first, but once you get into the rhythm of things and put your game face on, you can't wait to tell all your friends about it. My biggest challenge in tandem breastfeeding at three months postpartum, is nursing my newborn while my assertive two and a half year old, also demands to nurse. Akinyemi's eagerness to continue to nurse on demand makes me doubtful of my parenting: "Am I not explaining this correctly?"; "Have I not offered him sufficient alternatives?"; "How can I contribute to his self-empowerment and get him to self-soothe?".
|Tandem nursers, two and a half years, and three months old.|
|Nursing Itzix at the farmer's market, exhausted Akinyemi asks for "la otra".|
It's still a nightmare to recall those first couple of months postpartum, when Akinyemi was so disregulated that he'd cry, scream "Mami, help!", and beat his father for trying to soothe him. Akinyemi is nursing only when he really needs it, or when I feel comfortable enough. He loves nursing when Itzix nurses, and sometimes it's beautiful to watch the two of them- wide-eyed, feasting, and grabbing each others' hands. Akinyemi thinks it's hilarious that his baby brother can touch and feel him. He looks up at me, smiling with my nipple in his mouth to make sure I'm watching and enjoying the moment along with them. I am, baby, I am.