|Thinks he has it all figured out...|
Many couples separate during the tribulations of new parenthood, the majority occurring in the first year postpartum. Dads and other Co-parents, here are some helpful tips that will help you get along. This is my first attempt at making my blog male-friendly.
- If mom complains about breastfeeding, don't respond "Well at least you don't have to pay the bills!" or, "Just let me give him a bottle".
- Don't ask for sex, let her initiate the sex talk.
- If she makes a mess, don't complain about how messy she is, or how she has a problem with cleanliness.
- If baby is having a crying spell, and mom is stressed out, it's up to you to be the calm one. Refrain from comments like "I told you those greens were going to give the baby gas", or my mom did it alone and she survived".
- If she asks you not to touch her, don't comment on hormones or postpartum depression.
- If your mother comes over and makes comments on parenting, STAY MUTUAL.
- Give her a massage and backrub when she looks tense. Try not to make a move, though.
- If she asks you to cook a meal because she needs a break, cheerfully do so. Don't tell her you're too tired to clean up the mess and bring back fast food.
- If at any point, she loses it, stay calm. If she needs professional assistance, bring it up with love and compassion. Remind her you love her unconditionally, and that you will support her during this time of growth.
First few days can be tough for the whole family.